The Guest House


Dear Ones

Notice your thoughts, emotions, patterns and welcome them all with kindness and compassion. Learning to give these dignity with a spirit of detachment might surprise you.


Figyelj a gondolatokra, érzelmekre, mintákra és köszöntsd őket kedvességgel és együttérzéssel. Megtanulni ezt a méltóságot adni az elkülönítés szellemével meglepetést okozhat számodra.

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome, and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
Meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
Because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

Jalaluddin Rumi,
translation by Coleman Barks

From the Ancient Texts to Ontological Coaching


I’m sharing this with my readers. The text was downloaded in one of my quiet contemplative moments a few years ago.

This sums up beautifully the work that I do with my clients. Please feel free to ask for a 30 minute conversation free of charge if this is of interest.
The Maha Mritunjaya Mantra from the Upanishads.

A mantra that I often recite and contemplate on. I translate this as per my understanding.

Om triyambakam yajamahe

I bow to Lord Shiva, the one with the open third eye.
Meaning the awakened one

Sugandhim push ti vardhanam

May my virtues grow from more to more.
This can be done by starting to become aware of our thoughts, feelings and emotions. We all have these within us, all we must do is unlock them.

Uravarukameva bandhana

May I be freed from my bondages which I understand to be in the following way.
May I be released from the genetic bondages from this life and past lives, the stories, habits, beliefs that chain us down.

Mrityo mokshiya mamratat

May I be freed from this cycle of evolution and achieve immortality. From death to the Life Eternal.

My personal experience repeating this mantra has been powerful, I have mindfully observed my monkey mind, the demons that attack each one of us and treated each of these so called negative emotions with love, dignity and compassion. Not resisting these but simply honoring them as a welcome guest and working these through. Then just like the ripened fruit or vegetable falls off the branch when it is ready, similarly we are freed from our old stories, beliefs and genetic history that is locked in our DNA. if the fruit stays on the branch after it is ripe, it simply rots. Do we wish to live with rotten patterns that have never served us?

I leave you with this question and encourage you to start a dialogue.

With humility

What resists persists

Dear Tribe,
What resists persists. Are you willing to let go of the clinging, the identification, the expectation and simply observe without attachment, without belief, without desire for something????
Staying in the here and now is a magical practice. Simply accepting without question. I  cannot change certain situations. Am I going to intelligently let this sink in at a visceral level? This is what comes especially for you as I sit in reflection and prayer.

Reaction to Upsets


We get so upset when we hear something bad said about us. Have we asked ourselves why? We often wish to be loved by everybody. Does it happen in real life? Is it a realistic goal?

Might we enjoy the spaciousness and lightness that we experience once we shed these expectations and assessments about ourselves. It’s quite liberating! Don’t you think so?


Balance & Yoga


The challenges that we face in our life journey can severe us and make us bitter. And we plod through life feeling let down. But just like yoga teaches us, pulling up whilst grounding down to the earth.

How could we translate this? The hardships that we face, difficult decisions that we make as a result gives us the strength and courage. At the same time, let us ground ourselves, connect to our Center and bring out the kindness that is our innate nature.

Living our busy challenging lives, let us stay focused on our tasks, making tough decisions on a daily basis yet tapping into a kindness within each one of us that is our true nature.

Curious to hear your thoughts in the comments below.



Clear lake in glasses on the background of blurred nature
The mind was giving me a good run around the last few days 🙂 🙂 🙂  I noticed without resisting, clinging. There were 2 persons. One watching the drama and the other screaming and shouting. I stayed grounded in my Being. My practices, my work which I’m totally passionate about, my wonderful family, my social connections, my commitment to take good care of myself, exercise, eating healthy, getting enough rest, my professional learning and development. This morning the magical shift happened. I was HOME. I arrived back to where I belong.
The question is are we being too selfish by having so many ,MYS’ – was I being too selfish? Which is what we are programmed to question.
I leave you with a sentence to ponder and reflect
‘Selective self interest is often confused as being overly selfish or self absorbed’
How willing are you to invest in your well being? What possibilities emerge when you do so?
Please feel free to share your thoughts and ideas in the comments below.





One of my dear friends asked me the other day the secret of my happiness.

It got me thinking. I can compare it to me chasing my own shadow. The more I try to catch it, the farther it runs away.

Happiness to me seems similar. I recall waiting for something extraordinary to take place in my life at a subconscious level. It’s only recently that I’ve started enjoying every moment as it unfolds deliberately. The joy, the gladness, the triumph, the sorrow, the pain, the anguish. To marinate with all these emotions with no attachment.

I’ve given myself the permission to simply be the observer rather than wanting to reach a desired state.

It seems to me that my state of mind is a happy one only after I’ve let go of the strong urge to be happy. Quite paradoxical!

Hope this helps you in your journey. Please feel free to comment in the comments section below.