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Sunday afternoon musings

The body feels tired and weak after a nasty virus. The mind is dull, working very hard to take me away from center. My work is to simply observe with a quality of detachment and non participation. This is freedom.

What will your practice be this week?

Namaste,
Prerna

Vasárnap délutáni merengés

A test fáradtnak és gyengének érzi magát egy csúnya vírus után. Az elme unalmas játékot játszik, nagyon keményen dolgozik annak érdekében, hogy eltérítsen az egyensúlyomból. Az én munkám az, hogy egyszerűen megfigyelek,érzelmi bevonódás és részvétel nélkül. Ez a szabadság.

Mi lesz a gyakorlatod ezen a héten?

Namaste,
Prerna

Kindness to Self Weekend

Many of my conversations this week revolved around how we as a human race are incapable of being kind to ourselves. We are constantly in service towards our loved ones without even exploring the capacity to show a small amount of kindness to self.

The reason this happens is that we do not value ourselves enough. This also happens when we subconsciously sabotage ourselves under the mask of modesty, humility, service, compliance etc.

My invitation to each one of you is to start doing something small that demonstrates kindness towards YOU. Notice how this small shift affects your entire Being. Value yourself, love yourself no matter how hard it may be in the beginning. The rewards will be enormous.

Have a happy kind weekend towards Self

Prerna 🙏

Kedvesség magam felé hétvége

Ezen a héten sok beszélgetésem akörül forgott, hogy mi, emberi lényként nem vagyunk képesek kedvesnek lenni magunkkal. Folyamatosan szolgálatot teszünk szeretteinknek, anélkül, hogy feltárnánk a képességünket arra, hogy mutassunk egy kis kedvességet magunk felé.

Ennek oka az, hogy nem értékeljük eléggé magunkat. Ez akkor is történik, amikor tudatalattanul szabotáljuk magunkat a szerénység, alázat, szolgálat, megfelelés maszkja alatt.

Mindenkit meghívok, hogy tegyen valami apróságot, amiben a saját maga felé érzett kedvességet demonstrálja.. Figyeld meg, hogy ez a kis elmozdulás hogyan érinti az egész létezésed. Értékeld magad, szeresd magad, bármennyire is nehéz az elején.. A haszon óriási lesz.

Legyen boldog, kedvességgel teli hétvégéd

Prerna

Paradox Humor Change

One of my dear friends was going through a traumatic period in her life last year. Her mum was very ill with just a few months to live. A short while after losing her mum, we celebrated her daughter’s wedding. I was reminded of this story today when a client shared with me how she attended a funeral of a close relative as well as a wedding of another dear friend within the span of a couple of days. The 3 words that come to me are paradox, humor and change from the book ‘The Way of the Peaceful Warrior’ by Dan Millman.

Life is a paradox. We are in constant flux. One day we can be up and the next day we can be at a rock bottom low.

I find myself centered when I can accept the paradox of life with lightheartedness, staying detached and rooted in the present moment. What will your practice be for this week my dear readers?

Namaste,
Prerna

Weekend Post

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This caption captured my attention as I was biking around Toronto. I thought about how I had planned to immerse myself and open up orphanages for children to serve and love them once my girls left my nest. Interestingly, I found my calling by becoming a coach instead, focusing on creating new ways of Being to bring well being to others and harmonize the mind, body, and emotions. I am extremely grateful to have found this form of coaching. I believe I do my little bit every minute of my day to be in selfless service and am living my life’s purpose. I’m awed by how my journey has led me here.

What will you do to listen to your inner voice and calling? I would be happy to guide you through these conversations. Please reach out and message me privately.

In the spirit of service,
Prerna

“Ha ugyanott ott kötsz ki, ahonnan elindultál, akkor nem figyeltél az úton.”

Ez a mondat hívta fel a figyelmem, amikor Torontóban bicikliztem. Arra gondoltam, hogy amikor a lányaim elhagyták a családi fészket, akkor azt terveztem, hogy elmerülök magamban és árvaházakat nyitok azért, hogy szolgáljam, szeressem a gyerekeket. Érdekes, hogy ehelyett inkább arra éreztem késztetést, hogy coach legyek. A létezés új módjainak kialakítására fókuszálok, azért, hogy jóllétet vigyek mások életébe, és harmóniát teremtsünk a test, érzelmek és az elme között. Eszméletlenül hálás vagyok azért, mert megtaláltam a coachingnak ezt a fajtáját. Úgy vélem, hogy a napom minden percében teszek valamit, hogy önzetlen szolgálatban legyek, és megvalósítsam életem célját. Lenyűgöz, ahogyan az utam ide vezetett.

Mit fogsz tenni, hogy hallgass a belső hangodra és késztetésedre? Örömmel végigvezetlek ezeken a beszélgetéseken. Kérlek, írj privát üzenetet.

A szolgálat szellemében
Prerna

Weekend Post

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I strive to live my life with detachment. I recently had an AHA moment when I recognized how much I was suffering due to getting attached to situations unfolding around me. I was getting swept away by emotions and stories that I was telling myself based on feedback from the outside. I moved from being attached to starting to silently witness Life unfolding around me, consciously reinforcing detachment into my subconscious system.

This quote beautifully describes detachment in my opinion.

“Detachment is experiencing our feelings
without allowing them to control us.
We step back and look at things objectively.
We let go and accept what we cannot change.
We detach from others’ choices,
knowing that their spiritual work is not ours to do.
We choose how we will act rather than just reacting.
We step away from harmful cravings.
Detachment is a deep breath of peace
and patience in response to unexpected anger.
We can listen without losing ourselves.
With detachment, we see our mistakes
honestly make amends and start afresh.
Detachment allows us to be in the world but not of it.
It frees us to lead our lives with grace.”

What small practice will you introduce this week to break out of default habits and patterns?

Namaste,
Prerna

Photo credits Raul Palacios Gamez and Juhi Sujan
Artist Banksy

Arra törekszem, hogy az életemet érzelmi leválásban éljem. Nemrégiben volt egy AHA-pillanatom, amikor felismertem, hogy mennyire szenvedek, mert érzelmileg teljesen bekapcsolódtam a körülöttem kialakuló helyzetekbe. A külső visszajelzések alapján teljesen bevonódtam az érzelmekbe és a történetekbe, amiket mondtam magamnak. Aztán tudatosan elmozdultam az erős érzelmi bevonódástól az érzelmi leválás felé, hogy csendben tanúja legyek annak, ahogyan az élet kibontakozik körülöttem. Megerősítettem az érzelmi leválást a tudatos rendszeremben.

Ez az idézet szerintem szépen leírja a leválasztást:

“A leválás az érzelmeink megtapasztalását jelenti, anélkül, hogy hagynánk, hogy irányítsanak minket.
Hátralépünk és objektíven nézünk rá a dolgokra.
Elengedjük és elfogadjuk, amin nem tudunk változtatni.
Leválunk mások döntéseiről, emlékeztetve magunkat, hogy a z ő spirituális útjukat nem nekünk kell bejárni.
Megválasztjuk, hogy hogyan cselekedjünk, ahelyett, hogy csak reagálunk.
Elhagyjuk a káros vágyakozást.
A leválás a béke és a türelem mély lélegzete a váratlan haragra válaszul.
Hallgathatunk anélkül, hogy elveszítjük a fejünket.
Leválással őszintén látjuk a hibáinkat, módosítunk, és újrakezdünk.
A leválás lehetővé teszi számunkra, hogy létezzünk a világban, de ne a részeként.
Felszabadít bennünket, hogy kegyelemmel vezessük az életünket.”

Milyenkis gyakorlatot vezetsz be a héten, hogy kitörj alapértelmezett szokásokból és mintákból?

Namaste,
Prerna

Fénykép: Raul Palacios Gamez és Juhi Sujan
Artist Banksy

Sunday Reflections

IMG_20180519_135932 I was facilitating a team centering exercise and practice working on solving conflicts in the workplace this week.

Each of the participants reported after tapping into the wisdom of the body how important it was to be brutally honest and transparent to our needs as well as to the needs of others.

Are we brutally honest with ourselves? Do we demonstrate courage and reveal our vulnerability?

My practice is to evaluate on a regular basis what causes me internal disturbance. Once I recognize this, I work on holding an honest mirror to myself. The insights that I receive are always fascinating to observe and work through. From here, I am able to navigate my relationships effectively as well as honestly.

What will your practice be this week?

Namaste,
Prerna

Weekend Post

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The weather in Budapest is simply beautiful. Spring seems to be here and people are out and about enjoying the nice weather. One such sunny morning, as I was heading over to my client’s offices, I saw a young lad dragging his dog back home. The little puppy wanted to play with his mates in the park and enjoy the sunshine and the scents of spring. He resisted obeying his owner.

I stopped for a few minutes to watch this story unfold. It was quite a funny sight.

Aren’t we similar? We constantly resist and fight the status quo. We cause ourselves turbulence, anxiety. We worry over matters that we have no control over.

I noticed this week how my mind resisted being in the present. As I was reminded of the cute puppy’s behavior, I gently brought my mind back to the current moment.

I encourage you all to do the same.

What will your strategy and image be to shift your mindset?

Namaste,
Prerna

Weekend Post

One of my clients was brought up in a traditional, conservative family setting. He has a robust set of values and strives to lead a mindful conscious life. He finds it extremely challenging when some of his peers do not lead with the same style and then questions himself as his self doubt creeps in. He ends up feeling guilty, which affects his well being.

The following quote by Socrates helped him shift and understand how his belief system dictates his actions.

‘Obscurity is dispelled by augmenting the light of discernment rather than attacking the darkness’

We act by default which does not serve us many times. Once we learn to use and augment the power of discernment, we act differently.

My client let go of his expectations towards his colleagues, he worked on accepting them just as they were.

Having understood this, he is now beginning to experience well being and balance. He does not get frustrated because he serves his needs first. As a rule of thumb, he gives himself dignity before he acts.

Research shows that new habits and patterns are formed by way of repetition, despite our default patterns working hard to sabotage our well being.

I am sure this resonates with a lot of us. What are you going to resolve and discern this week?

See you next week!

Namaste,
Prerna

Weekend Post

I saw a client this week to whom I had introduced the Guest House by Rumi right at the beginning of our journey together. It took him a few weeks to soak in the words of this masterpiece. He translated it for me very kindly in Hungarian which I post below. Much gratitude dear one! This post is dedicated to you.

He reported that he has stopped participating with thoughts/emotions and is living as a silent observer. His life quality seems visibly enhanced, he experiences a level of joy that is very new to him.

I walked away from this conversation grateful to be a powerful agent of transformation within my clients.

What will your practice be? Are you willing to bring rigor and take full responsibility for your well being?

THE GUEST HOUSE- RUMI
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This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival.
Az emberi lét, olyan mint egy vendégház. Minden reggel új betérővel.

A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.
Váratlan vendégként érkezik egy öröm, egy bánat, egy aljasság vagy némi pillanatnyi tudatosság.

Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they are a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight.
Köszöntsd és szórakoztasd mind! Még ha egy csapatnyi bú is az, akik erőszakkal ürítik ki házad, magukkal víve minden bútorod.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice. meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
A sötét gondolat, a szégyen, a rosszindulat. Köszöntsd őket az ajtóban nevetve és hívd be őket.

Be grateful for whatever comes. Because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.
Légy hálás, bármi is érkezik. Mert mind útmutatóként van küldve a túloldalról.

Overwhelm

I noticed an overwhelming feeling at the beginning of this week. It all seemed too much for me. The story of ‘too much’ invaded my Being. I persisted patiently and worked throughout the week, accomplishing as much as I possibly could under the given circumstances.

Situations changed and I applied flexibility and adjusted to them accordingly. I was patient and kind to myself throughout. Judgement came and I observed without participation. I noticed that there were two parallel persons inside me, one chaotic and the other observant. I did not participate in the chaos that I was experiencing in full form this week and this was key. After a few days of being in this position, peace overcame me. I was grateful and seemed to be more like myself.

What will you resolve to practice with rigor this week? How will you stop participating in the chaos?

Namaste,
Prerna